We all love dreaming. As a matter of fact, one of the biggest reasons behind humanity’s massive success and growth is people’s ability to dream. We dream of wealth, cars, fame, houses and unfortunately, sometimes we also dream of our ex. A lot of times, this happens because of seemingly no apparent reason. Although dreams are dreams, we cannot help but wonder why that person reappears and if we are not truly over our ex as we believed. So why do we dream about our ex? What does it mean to dream about our ex? Is there any spiritual meaning associated with dreaming about our ex? We will find out in this post. Let’s get started.
Why Do I Keep Dreaming About My Ex: Find the Answers Here
What are dreams?
In reality, the reasons for dreaming about someone are diverse and do not always have to do with feelings. “Normally we tend to think that dreams are manifestations of the desires of our subconscious. The reality is that dreams are a hodgepodge of many ingredients with that result. Dreaming of an ex does not mean that you continue to secretly love him/her. Our brain is full of memories, many of them associated with emotional states. That day we may have remembered that person for any reason, or that we have lived an experience whose emotions have connected with the emotion experienced in the past with our ex. It’s more random than premonitory or an epiphany.
Why do I keep dreaming about my ex?
While there is no exhaustive answer to this question, here are some of the most likely reasons:
The lingering magic of first love
If dreaming of a recent love can raise questions, dreaming of love or an intense relationship from many years ago can leave us totally unsettled. Although it actually has its explanation. The meaning has little or nothing to do with the person himself/herself, but with who we were at that time. How we felt then. In this way, according to the psychologist, more than missing that first love, we miss our younger self a little, less hurt, more carefree. It may even be that our current relationship, now more durable and stable, is somewhat stagnant, and what we miss is that freshness of the first times, that the first love itself.
Nostalgia for a previous relationship
Dreaming of an ex does not have to mean that we still feel something, it may have to do with some kind of unresolved emotion. One of these examples may be the desire to relive the good memories of that relationship, either with that person or with someone new. It may happen that we do not want to be with that person in particular, but we remember beautiful moments that make us dream again, or perhaps we want to find a partner and when we do not get it, we idealize the last relationship and therefore dream more about her/him. In this sense, perhaps we should make a reflection to know how to distinguish between both ideas.
Unresolved issues from the former relationship
When we most dream of our ex, it is usually when the breakup is recent. Although this does not necessarily have to mean that there is still love between us, but rather unfinished business. You may be dreaming about that person because your subconscious is trying to help you get over the breakup. In this way, rather than being stagnant, we are on the right path to turn the page.
Overcoming a toxic relationship through sex
One of the dreams that most disturbs us is undoubtedly when sexual relations with someone appear, which also turned out to be very toxic in our lives. Yes, wet dreams might be nice in general, but not when they involve your ex. Dreaming about having sex with a toxic ex can be a good sign despite what it seems. If it’s been a while and you’re sure you wouldn’t get the person back, and you wouldn’t feel weak that way, but you’re having a dream where you’re back together and things are great, that’s a good sign that you are coming to peace. You are no longer beating yourself up. You forgive yourself and you have accepted this as part of yourself and your past and a lesson learned. But better not try to try to make it happen.
Memories with an ex can be good or bad. So instead of dreaming of those beautiful memories of first love, perhaps what appears in our dreams is the moment of the breakup, especially if it was we who took the step. The rupture does not have to do only with that person, but with the need to break with something in our life. Perhaps at this moment we are going through a painful moment, although the reason may be very different from love or lack of love, but our mind connects us with the memories of past pain. Thus, in this case, it does not mean that we have anything to close with that person or that we still have feelings for them, but that perhaps we are again at a time when we need to close another chapter of our life, and our mind reminds us of how we dealt with it then.
Facing a rejection
Another variation is to dream that that person breaks up with us. In this case, more than facing that we have to break with something, what we have to assume is some kind of rejection and, again, our mind looks for that previous sensation in our memories. If this was a long time ago, and you are dreaming that this ex is throwing you again, then you must ask yourself: What is happening right now that makes me feel this way? Did I get rejected for a job? Was something I proposed rejected? Why do you feel rejected or rejected again at this moment? Perhaps remembering how you faced that moment will help you manage the one that is coming.
So these were some of the reasons why you keep dreaming about your ex. It’s not an unusual phenomenon and many people go through it in their lives. As you might’ve noticed while reading that a lot of times, the reason isn’t very significant and it can be something very trivial. The most important thing is to keep moving on in life and focus more on real life. Dreams come and dreams go, life goes on.